When we suggest what to wear, it is just a suggestion – not a “dress code”.   Even at that, we are frequently asked what we mean.  Not wanting to send everyone scurrying off to the etiquette references, (which are inconsistent) we offer this as a guide:

When we say Black Tie Requested, this is our most formal level.  Men wear tuxedos, women wear cocktail, long dresses or dressy evening separates.  We are not encouraging tuxedo rentals.  A suit and tie will be OK.  Under no circumstances should you feel you cannot attend because you don’t have the requested attire – only if you don’t like “dressing up.”

When we say Black Tie Optional, we mean that if you have a tuxedo, this would be a good opportunity to wear it.  This is one level more relaxed than the above.

When we say Semi-Formal, we mean a jacket and tie for the gents and a dress or dressy pants for the ladies.

When we say Holiday Fancy, we are usually referring to the holiday season.  Start with Semi-Formal and include some sparkle or extra festive elements.

When we say Informal, we mean what some call business casual.  Gents might wear a sport-shirt (broadcloth preferred over knit.)  Ladies might wear a skirt & blouse or pants (not jeans.)

When we say Casual, we mean wear something comfortable that you can dance in.

Often, there are options related to the theme of a particular dance, up to and including costumes.  We let your imagination be your guide in these cases.  Everyone appreciates the effort and creativity that go with “getting into it.”